Category: women

Her place in your life ?

I am from India, here the value of women in your life is based on different aspects, I agree that some people do not agree with me, but first hear me out then decide or share your thoughts. Don’t worry I am not criticizing men or anyone, It’s my observation which I am sharing 😉

I have experience of both the boat, working and house wife, even at one moment I was enjoying both rides together 😊. When I was working the people around me, not my colleague, my family members, my parents,my in-laws they listened to my thoughts, they came and asked for opinions,but things changed when I became a housewife.

Since I am a housewife now they all started advising me, they are criticizing me, my opinion does not matter even upfront they said You don’t know the world and I was like” Ahhh, How come Till yesterday I was fitting there and now I don’t know, with marriage vows did I cross worlds 😂

But that’s the mentality, girl your reading and saying it’s not happening in my house, Go and advice on finance, give your opinion on government. I am the person who can lead the house, office and my husband, my family knows that, they still have eyes towards me. This is they are even If you have one working woman and one Housewife in house you start treating them in a different way.

That treatment starts with women because men do not care, they are having food on time, their laundry is ready and they have a TV remote, then they simply don’t care, So this differentiation starts by women, towards a women. 

Women value is not defined by whether she is working or not, she should not need to prove herself to her own family, if you love her, if you know her, then you know how much she is valuable.

If the house is smart, if everyone praises you  at work, kids achieve in school, Things are systematic then it is because there is a lady who decided to put you all at first place and herself at last. That lady is capable of more than you think, give her slight knowledge she will do better than you. But she is expecting only love.

She is not the housewife she is the Backbone of your life, your house.

Daughter’s Day

The fourth Sunday of September, dedicated to the Daughters, Happy Daughter’s Day.

Surprisingly, I did not know about that. Today in the morning I got messages from my mother and uncles, and it was the first time 😛 But I was so happy, more than my birthday wishes. In my community, being a daughter is a different thing. especially as per the society, and my family is a part of that. (They love me 🙂 ) . My mother never differentiates between my brother and me. My mother prefers me more than my brother, but when social norms come into the picture, she is a part of that. So now you get that why and how much I am happy.

I have a cute boy and love him so much. For me, son or daughter both are the same. They can do the same thing. The difference which I can say is boys need to teach the feelings, emotions, and girls are born with that. Other than that, I don’t see anything. So at my place, I am happy, and yeah I want a baby girl which I got from my sister-in-law so now I have a girl and boy 😊.

Son or Daughter does it matters at the end of the day they are your kid. In other countries they mean it but in India still, there is a problem, yes we are well educated, our girls are on the moon but still when we talk about kids, everyone wants a son, if the first child is a girl then everyone asking for next try, So you can have boy, funny but true. We believe the son carries forward the family name, and after marriage, girls belong to another family.

When girls marry and go to another family, they say she comes from a different family. She doesn’t get much respect there too, as they believe, because of the son the daughter-in-law is here. So again, the same loop. If you try to figure out the problem, there are lots of reasons some will say men’s society, some say because of men ego, okay right but deep down when the man was a kid, and he saw, the way his family treating to his sister or their thinking towards the girls, so he learns that. Even most of the time, women treat the girls in poor ways. Then who’s fault is this.

I know it’s not good thinking, but we have it. Now some of us are standing and opposing this concept. I admire and want to thanks them. We start the change, and our next generation will be proud. Son or Daughter both carry the family name. We are the ones who make society so together we can stand for our daughters, at that day we don’t need to celebrate one day for daughters, then all days for them. We can do one more thing, treat our daughter-in-law as a daughter. With that change in two places, we make women strong. She does not need to fight back in the home. 

A Daughter is a Future Strong Women. Treat both daughter and son in the same way, and we don’t need to teach sons how to respect women, and the girl doesn’t need protection. Equality gives you what you want to achieve.