M and W were so much in love, everything is perfect between them, they have the same hobbies, same test. They are soul mates.
Both are working, they start their day with exercise, coffee and then go to the office, they come back home, watch tv or a little gossip and bed. They have a cute dog who is all alone in day time but with M and W his night is good. They have a sweet little family.
M and W had little arguments like W wants M help for cooking, and M suggests appointing a cook. M wants family involvement for that W agrees but on her terms, with W terms M is not agreed. In short as a married couple they have differences but they are in love.After some time they get pregnant, for that W moves to her family. During that time for the first time M and W are apart, but M traveled to W, when M traveled to W he also visited his parents house.
W has no problem with this visit, as M and W’s parents are fully involved in their relationship.But there is little twist, M and W both have expectations with each other, at the same time they are liking No responsibility zone. They are still talking on the phone but slowly they are feeling disconnected. After some time they were blessed with a baby and W got busy at work, baby and she expected help from M. M suggests the same thing appoint cook, have day care or quit the job. For that W was not ready, here M started complaining about her to his mother and the same W is sharing her being to her mother, both mothers are taking sides or their children so instead of husband and wife it became family drama.
W left M place with the baby and started her life at her mother’s place. She is trying that M apologizes and takes them home but M decides to divorce her. W is not saying sorry she is asking to get it back together and take care of the baby as parents. But M is saying you are no good for me.
W is now single mother and take ok ng care of her baby, M wants to talk his baby on phone and if he got custody then his mother will take care of baby.M started hiking, parting, new friends circle, traveling on holidays, new hobbies and when he need to talk, share his feeling or daily conversation he calls his mother and have long conversation. In short M is enjoying bachelor life and he is not missing his soul mate, Why ?
With this As I understand when you become parents, mother fathers both need to sacrifice, it’s not only mother so M’s expectation is wrong. Next is if you have issues don’t involve your third that makes things worse.
W should be ready for something like a cook, no harm in that, the same M should talk to W only yes family friends all are important but no one is replaced with a life partner. Here M replaced W with his mother, he started sharing his emotions, daily thoughts and even private things with his mother. So how can he miss W, he cooks in the morning then the office after that call to mother to share all day things then tv and good night. It’s all finished when he will miss her? (Instead of a mother you can add any third person )
You miss your life partner when you want to share your moments, your emotions, when you need a shoulder to cry to sleep, but all those things if you share with a third then I don’t think you will miss your life partner.
Nowadays divorce is very common, yes in marriage there are differences. Sometimes the husband is not happy with the wife and wife with the husband, but you can deal with each other, if those differences are small like M and W. If I try to see the bigger picture then M is busy in his life and replaces W with a third, W is busy in her life and she replaces M with baby, how and when they will miss each other.
Maybe you have a different perspective, I feel that way and I share it with you, if you have other thoughts share them with me.
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